Work/Life Balance. Really?
MichaelSunnarborg / July 26, 2016 Article, Image, Link / Leave a Comment
Is there really such a thing as work/life balance? Many say it’s a myth.
Let’s start with the literal definition: The word balance implies harmony or equilibrium among opposing elements. Imagine what this looks like on a scale—work and life are not only separated, but at opposite ends of the spectrum. This common view of work/life balance supports the idea that work and life are separated.
Our environments might seem to highlight this perception of work/life separation—since most people leave their home to go to work each day, the differences between work and home environments shift our energy and force us to refocus. This separation creates an illusion that our work and personal lives are two different worlds and should be treated as such. Now we must be two different people: personal “me” and work “me.”
The illusion pulls us apart.
Now consider a different picture. Visualize life as a big circle with work as one of many different circles contained within it; the various activities of our lives are constantly flowing in and out of these circles. Now work and life are not opposing elements; instead, work is one element in a much larger life.
A true balance between work and life comes with knowing
that all our life activities are integrated, not separated.
The answer to finding better work/life balance is to find the right blend between all our life activities—regardless of where and when they occur.
These tips might help you:
Schedule your time. Using a calendar to manage both professional and personal priorities helps. Putting events on a calendar solidifies intentions and keeps us, and others, accountable for follow through. It helps us to visually organize our time and prioritize our responsibilities. Besides, once we’ve written something down, we don’t need to remember it, which frees up brain space for more creativity.
Cultivate and nurture professional relationships. There will always be boundaries between work and personal life, but if we seek to make the lines as thin as possible, we can find powerful friendships at work. Remember: Workmates and families see us at our best and worst, but workmates may see different sides than our own families do, leading to a good perspective on our behavior that we might not receive from our families.
Focus on what you love. It may sound obvious, but if we focus the majority of our energy on what we love about our work, we will feel better about it. Focusing on the things—and people—we don’t like just brings more frustration. We can use our power of choice to keep our thoughts moving in the direction of positivity and productivity at work and stay fueled forward.
Take vacation days. After reading the statistic that the average US employee only takes half of his or her eligible vacation, we already know that people aren’t taking time off to reboot and refresh. We can use our time off to come back to work with a fresh perspective and a new attitude. Vacations allow us to get back some much-needed peace and quiet and spend valuable time with friends and family. Go on—you deserve it!
Learn more about how to find a better balance between work and life in Balancing Work, Relationships & Life in Three Simple Steps or another book from Michael’s collection at michaelsunnarborg.com/books.
6 thoughts on “Work/Life Balance. Really?”
Isn’t it often true, Michael, that our perceptions shape our thoughts and behaviors? All we have to do is re-imagine the picture of our life, and life gets better!
Great post, Michael!
Indeed! Thank you for your comments, Bette.
I appreciate this visualization. It’s something so many of us struggle with on a daily basis, and this helps put it in perspective. Thank you for the tips; love your blog!
Thank you, Jennifer! I’m glad to hear that the visual is helpful–sometimes adding pictures to our thoughts help us to share them with others. Also glad to hear you love the blog because I love writing it! Be Well, Michael
Great thoughts, Michael.
Some reminders we all need so much in our busy lives.
Thank you for your kind comments, Oksana!